I've been wrecking my brain for quite some time now trying to figure out how to help myself as much as I help others. I actually enjoy being there for others but when I look around I find it hard to see who's there for me. So as I reflect maybe there's a slight fear of "failure, disappointment, or even making the commitment to myself." It's not always that easy to be able to pinpoint or even have a desire to change things about yourself. So I've decided to do the next best thing, find a "LIFE COACH." I have a problem though, are they going to be there for me because it's their job, because I may have to pay them for their services, or has God given them the same spirit he's given me to be able to listen and help others devise a plan of action and success? The jury is still out on these questions.
So I was speaking to a close friend the other day and we were discussing ideas for her business and I got really excited and the ideas were just flowing. You see I get so excited and think that people should jump when I say jump. I did more research and came up with even more ideas for "her" business. I've actually done this several times for others and for the life of me I can't understand how it comes so easy for me to help others develop their dreams but when it comes to my personal goals and dreams all creativity ceases.
As I'm typing this my mind is all over the place too. Different thoughts of business ventures, classes I want to take, and organizations I want to join to better myself. So who's responsible for motivating the motivator??? It gets very difficult at times. I've heard people describe me as outgoing, driven, determined, tenacious, dedicated, and of all words "committed." So the idea crossed my mind to move past others and focus on me. My mom would probably say that I'm always focused on me but I know that's not true. I don't anyone would say that I was selfish person without follow up with a chuckle and a "yeah right!"
How do I make the transition smoothly without hurting others? How do I still honor the gift that God has given me to have so much compassion for others but still have enough compassion for myself? How do I shut out all the other things going on around me to focus only on me and the things that it will take to help get me to the next level? If someone asked me all these questions I could probably help them devise a plan of action but since it's for me I'm at a lost for words.
Starting today I'll create a list of goals. I'll give these goals deadlines. I'll devise my own "Plan of Action." I'll take all the necessary steps for me to reach total happiness since I'm the Captain of my Fate and the Master of my Soul. It's only fair, right? Once I've done that then I can find time to be more helpful to others and to continue to a servant of God's will. Today I'm taking my own advise. Let's Get It! #TEAM FINER THINGS
Thursday, June 23, 2011
Friday, June 3, 2011
Recent Adventures of Erica James
So it's been over a year since my last post and so many things have changed. Some good some still very bad but CHANGED!
I don't know where to start and I think that's one of the things I've been dealing with all my life. I'm such a free spirit til anything that pops in my mind I want to accomplish it. Human Resources Professional, Event Planner, Gourmet Chef, and now the latest three: Mother, Life Coach/Counselor and Cupcake Baker! By the way there are still a few things I want to do a little bit further down the line.
So let's tackle these issues.
MOTHER - I'm not in a relationship, I'm on birth control and I am super afraid of the whole process of giving birth. I don't know how this is going to work out. So I've decided to help raise my niece. She has been a joy in my life these past few weeks. God has stepped in and gave me just what I needed. I have realized that raising a child is not a one person job. So let's add a "HUSBAND" to this list because I don't want to do it alone. So we can check this one off the list for now and I'll stick with the part-time parenting.
LIFE COACH/COUNSELOR - I've been a listening ear to so many people in my life. I remember growing up and grandmother told me that God gave me the skill to be able to witness to others. I didn't know at the time what she meant but now I get it. So I looked into a Master's program in Counseling. MORE SCHOOL? I'm not sure I'm ready for that. I just know this one thing, it feels really good to help others. I may not have all the answers, but I believe that when my opinion is asked the words that are formed came from God. Besides I have a quite a few grey hairs to prove my wisdom. LOL!! Another gift about helping others is that my words have actually been helping me. I know it's hard to tell someone to do something when it's not you, but I can't help but think that these past few months in particular has been preparing me for my next journey in life. Only God knows what that is and I'm grateful for the preparations.
CUPCAKE BAKER - I've always had this passion for cooking but I've never considered myself a baker until now. I've fallen in love with CUPCAKES! I've always liked cake but really tried to stay away because all that sugar isn't good for you. However CUPCAKES are a different story. I wanted to combine 2 of my favorite things to make one big thing: CHAMPAGNE & CUPCAKES! Well I did it. I've decided that I'll spend the next few months coming up with different cupcake and liquor combinations to create the ultimate CUPCAKE small business. I'm planning now and my goal is to really get it up & running for profit. WISH ME LUCK!!!
So I wrote this post because sometimes I feel like my life is destined to be bigger than it is. I'm very ambitious and would love to focus on one project at a time but for some reason my brain doesn't operate that way. Starting today I'm going to write done all my projects. Give them a goal and timeline of completion and embrace all that will come from it. I've never been diagnosed with ADHD but I think it's there. *wink wink* Well look for me to keep you guys posted on my adventures to come. I'm really excited about them all.
I don't know where to start and I think that's one of the things I've been dealing with all my life. I'm such a free spirit til anything that pops in my mind I want to accomplish it. Human Resources Professional, Event Planner, Gourmet Chef, and now the latest three: Mother, Life Coach/Counselor and Cupcake Baker! By the way there are still a few things I want to do a little bit further down the line.
So let's tackle these issues.
MOTHER - I'm not in a relationship, I'm on birth control and I am super afraid of the whole process of giving birth. I don't know how this is going to work out. So I've decided to help raise my niece. She has been a joy in my life these past few weeks. God has stepped in and gave me just what I needed. I have realized that raising a child is not a one person job. So let's add a "HUSBAND" to this list because I don't want to do it alone. So we can check this one off the list for now and I'll stick with the part-time parenting.
LIFE COACH/COUNSELOR - I've been a listening ear to so many people in my life. I remember growing up and grandmother told me that God gave me the skill to be able to witness to others. I didn't know at the time what she meant but now I get it. So I looked into a Master's program in Counseling. MORE SCHOOL? I'm not sure I'm ready for that. I just know this one thing, it feels really good to help others. I may not have all the answers, but I believe that when my opinion is asked the words that are formed came from God. Besides I have a quite a few grey hairs to prove my wisdom. LOL!! Another gift about helping others is that my words have actually been helping me. I know it's hard to tell someone to do something when it's not you, but I can't help but think that these past few months in particular has been preparing me for my next journey in life. Only God knows what that is and I'm grateful for the preparations.
CUPCAKE BAKER - I've always had this passion for cooking but I've never considered myself a baker until now. I've fallen in love with CUPCAKES! I've always liked cake but really tried to stay away because all that sugar isn't good for you. However CUPCAKES are a different story. I wanted to combine 2 of my favorite things to make one big thing: CHAMPAGNE & CUPCAKES! Well I did it. I've decided that I'll spend the next few months coming up with different cupcake and liquor combinations to create the ultimate CUPCAKE small business. I'm planning now and my goal is to really get it up & running for profit. WISH ME LUCK!!!
So I wrote this post because sometimes I feel like my life is destined to be bigger than it is. I'm very ambitious and would love to focus on one project at a time but for some reason my brain doesn't operate that way. Starting today I'm going to write done all my projects. Give them a goal and timeline of completion and embrace all that will come from it. I've never been diagnosed with ADHD but I think it's there. *wink wink* Well look for me to keep you guys posted on my adventures to come. I'm really excited about them all.
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